The Cougar & The Cub

Is it a rule that you have to be over 40 to be officially considered "A Cougar on the Prowl"? I hope not because I'm not 40, but I'm damn sure on cougar status. I'm currently seeing someone who is 7 years my junior and I'm totally enamored with him right now. Of course I won't let on to him about how I'm really feeling... at least not yet, but he knows that I'm diggin him. Dating someone younger than me isn't abnormal for me though. For some reason, I always attract younger guys. I don't go out looking for them- they just flock to me like bees to honey. Naturally, a woman in her 30's such as myself, should really be with someone their own age or maybe older. But who says thats the ways things really ought to be? Where is this rule written that a woman should not date a man younger than she is? And why is it that the women get labeled as a "cougar", making us sound hungry and on the hunt for fresh prey to demoralize and corrupt, but men who date younger than them are considered "the man" because he's got some young tender-roni on his arm? I hate the double standard!

The guy I'm seeing is on the complete opposite end of the spectrum of all the other dip shits that I've dated. We've spent a lot of time together and a couple of nights and nothing has happened! NOTHING! Totally unbelievable, especially for me. But don't think I didn't try anything. He turns me down every time. It's not a blow to my ego though. He explained why and when he did, he rocked my socks!!!

He told me that being physically intimate with a man isn't what I needed right now at this point in my life. He went on to say that because I've been in some really bad relationships, that I needed to see how a real man is supposed to treat a woman. That I deserved to be listened to, cared for, supported, admired, and loved for who I am. Of course the bitter and cynical woman in me gave him the side-eye in the beginning; thinking that he had some sort of ulterior motive for all of this. But what? I don't have anything, and if he just wanted sex, he could have gotten that from me in the beginning, but as I stated, he hasn't even tried.

If you guys only knew what I have been through in the past with men, you would fully understand why this guy blew me away! I've always gotten the guy who immediately wanted to come over and have sex, but never wanted to really know who I am. This one is different. He's 26 years old people!!! We all know that the average 26 year old is out whoring around with anything that moves and isn't trying to be monogamous with anyone at least for another five to ten years. He tells me that he's ready to build something meaningful with someone, but a friendship must be the foundation, and that is what he and I are establishing with what we have.

This whole "taking our time" thing is new to me and is going to take some getting used to... but I actually like it. As the old adage goes:

To get something that you've never gotten; You've gotta do something you've never done!

Allow Me To Reintroduce Myself...

Yep... that describes me to a tee- Single & Sexy. But you might want to add bored shitless, tired, lonely, bitter, cynical, broke, and a whole host of other adjectives, but they would totally monopolize the entire post. I decided to start this blog because a) I love love love writing and telling stories, b) I found an elementary school friend on Facebook.com who would always comment on my status everytime I posted something. What I thought was an average day of a bitch of a supervisor, or a teacher calling me about my daughter, or my rants about my disdain for Atlanta traffic, turned out to be comedic fodder for all of my facebook buddies. When I noticed how much attention I was getting, I realized that my life really was pretty interesting... and that I owed it to humanity to be able to share in my blissful agony of a life, and c) what else do I have to do?

Hopefully I can gain a bit of insight from comments left about my posts or from me even re-reading what I just posted. You know how things sound perfectly sain when you think about them in your head, but once you put it on paper, you're like "What the hell was I thinking?" Well, yeah, that's what I'm sure will happen more times that I care to count. Maybe I can be some inspriration to other singles ladies of 'WHAT NOT TO DO' in the single life. I have more war stories than I care to share and some of you would probably hunt me down and throw eggs at me if I told everything. But that's why I'm here. To confess it all along the way to my journey of finding A LOVE OF MY OWN!