Since I was not able to finish my quest of 30 Dates in 30
Days, I’ve had more than enough time to think about the vast number of options
that I could take in my journey to find Mr. Right.
I’ve thought about going the route of yet another blind
date, but decided against it because the whole notion of meeting up with
someone that a friend knows more about than I do still doesn’t sit well with
me. I always wonder if said friend has “history” with this guy and just wants
to pawn him off on me because she knows he’s a real piece of work. Then there’s
the option of my old faithful, meeting someone online. I’m so over online
dating it makes no sense. Having been an active participant of virtual hook-ups
for well over a decade can take its toll on your psyche. It’s just as bad as
the third option of meeting a guy organically- whether it’s at church, the grocery
store, a bar/lounge, your average home improvement store, I still get nothing
new. The one time I stepped out and actually met a guy organically, I thought
that I had met someone who was at the least my age with, again, at the least
the same things I had, I was bamboozled. After two excruciatingly painful
dates, I found out that he was 24, had 4 kids, lived in his uncles converted
garage and was a regular on the MARTA. Oh… and once you got two or three drinks
in him, that Southwest Atlanta dialect reared its ugly, unintelligible head.
So, where does all of this leave me? It leaves me with one
last ditch option… speed dating. I mean, why not? What could it hurt? I’ve
tried damn near everything except this. I even delved into the world of the
paid membership groups that catered specifically to singles looking for love.
Through all of the cultural events for singles, cooking classes for singles,
sporting events for singles, international excursions for singles and all else
in between for the desperately seeking the right type of love single, nothing
has worked.
I think speed dating would be a great way to meet a variety
of pretty decent guys within a short period of time without having to worry
about whether or not he’s awkward or your awkward because everyone in the damn
room is feeling the same way.
As with most dating events, you'll hear some good and some bad. All in all, what I've learned over the years when it comes to dating is:
As with most dating events, you'll hear some good and some bad. All in all, what I've learned over the years when it comes to dating is:
- It really only takes me a few minutes of conversation to know whether or not I'm actually interested in knowing more about a guy.
- Keep your past right where it is- in the past. Don't make the next man pay for the last mans mistakes.
- Don't take yourself so seriously when initially getting to know a guy. Try to relax and just enjoy the moment.
- Even though you're not taking yourself too seriously, still let it be known what you're looking for. Most guys don't think about the future, whereas, we're (women) always thinking about where this is going to go. If you're looking for a relationship, say that. If you're not looking for anything serious but someone to hang out with from time to time, say that too. Nothing wrong with stating your intentions. It keeps everything on the up and up and it let's the guy know where you stand from the jump.
- ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS listen to your gut. As the late Johnny Cochran said, "If the glove don't fit..." then you need to split... meaning, if what he's saying or doing doesn't make you feel right from the beginning, don't second guess yourself.
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