My Journey To Date 30 Men In 30 Days

For the last 13 years, I’ve been single. I’m not talking about single and not dating or having any type of male contact whatsoever, but single in the sense of I have not been in an exclusive relationship with anyone in 13 years. That’s a long time to be by yourself. Sure, I’ve had the occasional friend that I can go to when “in need” or the friend who’s available for a movie/dinner date, but is that enough to keep any woman satisfied and not wanting more from companionship for over 10 years?

To be honest, for a while, I was content with being single. As much as I loathe the whole idea and fact of being single now, at one point, I was okay with not having to deal with the lies, deceit, trickery and foolery that came with most of the men that I encountered. My heart just needed a break from it all.

Here lately, I’ve developed a new found fire to find love. I know that most of you are probably saying that you only find real love when you’re not looking for it. Well, I’m not going to continue to sit back and wait for love to find me. That’s what I’ve been doing this whole time and the shit ain’t exactly panning out the way all of these self-help, laws of attraction, think positive mumbo jumbo books are saying they will. What I’m about to do, is going to change the way I look at dating and finding love for the rest of my life. It’s something that I’ve never done before. And as the adage goes,

“In order to get something you’ve never got, you’ve got to do something you’ve never done.”

So, here we go; I’m implementing a “30 Days of Dating”. In this trial, I plan to date (not sleep with *crossing fingers*) 30 men in 30 days. I believe we’ve seen this done several times before by both men and women who found themselves somewhat on the same seemingly endless path of losers and boozers as I’m in now. My plan is to date whomever wants to date me, regardless of race, social class, education, disability, income, and any other prerequisites that may ordinarily disqualify a man with most women. And since I’ve put myself out there more now, than I’ve ever done before, I’m getting quite a few bites per se. If, at the end of this 30 day period, I do not find anyone that I would like to continue to date, or no one who wants to continue to date me, then my dating life will be put on hold indefinitely until I can figure some things out within myself.

Last night was date #1. I made a Facebook post letting all of my friends know that this was my plan, and I received feedback from several ladies stating that I shouldn’t tell the men that I would be blogging about our date. Initially, I thought that I should let them know, AFTER the date was over. I figured that just in case someone somehow came across my blog and began to put two and two together and told said gentleman that they may have an inkling that I’m speaking of him, that he wouldn’t be mad; but two of my friends made a valid points. One stated that by telling the men, it may taint the study and my findings. Another stated that if the guys knew that I would be telling the world about our date, he may put on airs and send his “representative” on the date. Both great points, which I didn’t really consider until now. So, I’ve decided not to disclose that piece of this experiment.  

Over the next month, I’m going to take you all on my quest. You will experience the highs, mids, lows, and all else that comes with trying to find the “one”. I’m not holding anything back. This will be a journey that I expect  will yield some pretty great rewards.

… and so, it begins…